Friendships are something that I take very seriously. As someone who doesn't have the strongest relationship with my family, my friends are my family. I put them on par and even above them, so when a 'friend' has truly betrayed me or hurt me in a way that is beyond painful, it literally feels like someone has stabbed me right in the chest.
People say that there is a reason and a season for friends. They come and go as your needs change and as you get older, it becomes harder in stay in touch with them as life begins to get in the way. As many people may know, the world-famous TV series 'friends' is my favourite TV show of all time! When I hear how Marta Kauffman (the creator) describe what the show is about, it reminds me that what I'm doing in my life is the right thing. Whenever they bring up doing a reunion for the show it is immediately de-bunked and one time Ms. Kauffman gave her own two cents as to why a reunion shouldn't happen. "Friends was a show about that time in your life when your friends are your family". For me that time is now.
I've had a few friends go but I'm lucky to say that most of my friends that I've know for years are still around. I'm dreading the day that we all teeter off with our adult lives and start to have families because that'll be the day that we loose touch and other priorities will take precedence. Some of the signs may already be showing. Most of my friends are starting to graduate university and find full-time work; the true first step into adult-hood.
Here are some of the tell tale signs that a friendship may be about to end:
1. You're constantly putting in the effort to see them
2. They've become all distant and keeping certain details to themselves
3. They're going out and not inviting you
4. Their attitude has started to hit a negative level
5. They're not supportive with new ventures and hobbies you've decided to take up
6. They stop replying to messages
7. They're just plain out starting to SUCK as a friend
8. They've done something that is honestly beyond forgivable and thereby rendering the friendship ruined!
This is the time where you have to do yourself (and tbh, them too) a favour and cut them out of your life!